Why Do We ‘Wait’ Because of Our ‘Weight?’
/Weight Loss Fluctuations (8.25.2025 to 8.31.2025)
Have you ever considered doing something that you really want to do, maybe even something you’ve been hoping to do, but then decided that you’ll do that thing the next time the opportunity comes? That you’ll enjoy it more once you’ve lost those extra pounds that have been bothering you. That you’ll wait for the weight to change.
If so, let’s join a club together and smack each other with giant sponge hammers.
What the heck were we really waiting for? Granted, if the activity you’re passing on for now involves participating in an Ironman Triathlon and you’re a hundred pounds heavier than is ideal, yes, losing a few before registering for the event may be the wiser choice. (For the record, I did participate in four sprint-level triathlons and was one hundred pounds heavier than now, but I didn’t love the experience.)
But why do we decline invitations to cocktail parties—or accept the invite only to cancel at the last minute, feigning a migraine when it’s really that we hate the clothes that we can fit in and which are decidedly non-cocktail-party-ready?
Been there.
Or the ludicrous and irrational situation where we join a gym because we know that if we don’t do something soon, some of our parts are going to declare mutiny and go down tools altogether, but decide we won’t go there until we’ve lost at least ten pounds.
Done that.
The saddest type of waiting for the weight is absenting oneself from truly important moments in life: sitting in the car at your kid’s soccer match rather than standing at the side of the pitch, cheering the team on; not coming out of the hotel room at the beach even as your family implores you to join them on the beach; being sure that you’re undeserving of love, and, ergo, you’re unlovable. And all because weighing more than others, or more than we want, colors our experience with any activity that involves other people, and our anticipation of participating.
There are so many things I didn’t do back when my self-image and self-esteem were equal parts bad and badder. I’ve made up for much of the previous reticence to live my best life and am currently content, busy, and engaged. But I want to encourage anyone who is pulling back from what, where, and who they want to be, because being a size 3x or 18W or having a 40” belt obscures the image of what could be, to stop that. It’s not easy to shift from having doubts to feeling determined, but let’s counsel ourselves as we would our kid, partner, or friend. Anyone who needs encouragement to get out there. To realize that often we’re the only ones standing in judgment of how we look on an elliptical machine, on the sidelines of a soccer match, or in a non-cocktail-party-ready outfit.
Don’t be like me from a few years back. Cease the diem. Carpe the day. Get over yourself. And be as encouraging and kind to yourself as you are to others.
We can still get together and brandish humongous spongy weapons. That sounds therapeutic.And it doesn’t matter what size jeans we wear to do it. It is just one of the many fun activities that await us out there in the world. Think of things you've been putting off, people you've been shutting out, and the internal monologue where you've been putting yourself down. Now, think differently, act on those thoughts, and take a tiny step towards re-entry into your life.
Don't just sit there. Get to it!
If I can do this, you can do this. I promise.
Disclaimer: I’m not a medical doctor, researcher, or Ph.D., but instead, I’ve been fortunate to have had the time and resources to research the ketogenic diet, also known as LCHF (low carb/high fat). The information I share is based solely on my understanding of that research. We are all responsible for our own choices, including what we put in our mouths, and there’s no substitute for each of us checking things out ourselves. And I’m not a medical professional in any way. Go Keto With Casey is not a medical site. “Duh,” you might say. But best to make it clear to all. I welcome questions, comments, and even civil criticism. I’m still learning. So, if you have something to add, go for it. Links in this post and all others may direct you to affiliate links, where I will receive a small amount of the purchase price of any items you buy through those links. Thanks!
